Winning Ex Back

If you can honestly say, I’m still in love with my ex, there is a very good chance that your ex might still love you too, but that doesn’t necessarily mean it’s a good idea to try to get back together, first, you broke up for a reason, even if you didn’t want to break up and the break off was entirely your ex’s doing.

If the break up was mutual and now you are having a hard time because you feel like you are still in love, and you think that your ex should be there with you, then it’s even more important that you examine why you agreed to the break up in the first place.

Yes, there is a chance that a mutual split was a mistake, but if you really look back at the reasons you both had for calling a halt to the relationship, you might find that is better to love your ex from afar and work through the sadness rather than try to rekindle the romance, you might say I’m still in love; my ex even wants to get back together, while this might make you feel very hopeful that the two of you might be able to work things out and live happily ever after, don’t be fooled into thinking that it will be easy, the reasons you broke up might still be there, if you get back together, what will change? Your relationship might go along well for a while because you are both so happy to be back together.

If you broke up thinking, you are still in love with your ex, and he or she thought the same so you got back together, you will go through a honeymoon period just as you did when you were a new couple, you will both feel like you saved the relationship and kept each other from making a horrible mistake, but that feel-good honeymoon period will wear off eventually, and then what will you do? How are you going to prevent the problems that caused you to break up in the first place from coming back and making you want to part ways again? Couples counseling is a good option, if you think, you are still in love with your ex, and want him or her back, then consider counseling to keep old problems from splitting you up again later.

Counseling is certainly something that a couple shouldn’t be afraid to try, even if the problems are relatively minor, catching small problems early with counseling can prevent bigger problems down the road, early counseling can even prevent a future divorce, today’s couples seem more eager to try new things, which makes counseling a good option, couples married years ago seem less likely to go for counseling or try new approaches, perhaps because it wasn’t something commonly done when they were younger.

If you feel like you need relationship counseling, be sure to ask your partner to go to counseling with you in a non-judgmental way, if you ask him or her to go to counseling in such a way as it seems like you are accusing them of being the problem and needing counseling, you are likely to encounter resistance to the idea, try to make it clear that you want the counseling for yourself if nothing else, if you ask your partner to go to counseling because you have some issues you need to work on, they are more likely to view the idea favorably, explain that you think you need some help to be able to contribute more to the relationship.

Don’t accuse the other person of need counseling, even if you believe that they are most of the problem, don’t say so, once you are in relationship counseling, they will learn tips and techniques for being better within the relationship, just as you will, don’t be afraid to suggest relationship counseling, whether you have been in the relationship for 3 months, 3 years or two decades, it’s never too late to try counseling to resolve problems, and it’s never too late to try to keep small problems from becoming big ones.

If your partner refuses, go on your own, while the counseling would work best if both of you go, you can go and work on things to improve yourself, if your partner sees you going to relationship counseling, they are more likely to give it a try.