If you want to save your marriage you have a hard road ahead of you, but first take a hard look at the state of your marriage. Is this the person you want to be within five years? If your answer is no, you don’t need to read any further. But if you want to know how to stop your divorce and save your marriage I am going to show you how to save your relationship.
Once you have decided that your marriage is worth saving, you can start to do the work that is necessary. Don’t even think about going to the divorce lawyer anymore. You’ve made the commitment to stick with your relationship.
Now that you have put divorce out of your mind, accept that there will have to be changes in the relationship. If you want the relationship to work more than your partner does, then you are the one who is going to have to do the most changing. That’s a simple fact. It is like the person who has the bigger aversion to messiness usually does the most cleaning around the house. The person who wants the relationship to work more will have to do the most changing.
You have to be prepared to talk more too. Set aside time to get to know your partner once again. If he or she has hobbies that they are willing to share with you, get involved even if you are not all that into anything that interests your partner.
If your partner is willing to agree to it, marriage counseling may be what you need to save your marriage. A relationship counselor or therapist will be able to look at your marriage from the outside, ask probing questions, and get you to open up to each other.
There is no such thing as a perfect relationship. Once you have the “ideal” out of your head, you will be able to work on what is real and what is good. These are the standards you should be applying to your marriage.