Tips For Healing Yourself and Your Relationship
One thing that many people will try to do, is to find out if the reason for your difficulties in your relationships is because of the problems between the two of you, or is it because of problems that originated early on in either your life or the other person’s life, it can be exhausting trying to find the original root of the matter but one thing is obvious, you have problems now.
The best thing to do now is to try and fix the relationship that you are in so that you and your spouse or partner can help overcome each other challenges, if your relationship is a strong one, there will be no more need to concentrate on healing yourself because you will have a partner to help you overcome.
One thing that is going to really help is to never allow yourself to be criticized, or at least don’t internalize it, also make sure you don’t criticize the one you love, there is no such thing as constructive criticism, there is nothing constructive about it, all it does is make one feel less powerful than the other and it is used to manipulate much in the same way an abuser does.
A relationship is not a power struggle and it is not a war, quit treating it like that and there won’t be any fights to win or lose, let your partner know what hurts but also let them know what it is you want or need them to do and try to offer the same to them, also discuss what you expect of the other.
Whether you are dating or involved in a marriage there are many things that you can do to help better the situation, once the two of you have worked to repair the relationship and put away any talks of divorce, separation, or breaking up, the two of you can work together to make each other better people.