Counseling is certainly something that a couple shouldn’t be afraid to try, even if the problems are relatively minor, catching small problems early with counseling can prevent bigger problems down the road, early counseling can even prevent a future divorce, today’s couples seem more eager to try new things, which makes counseling a good option, couples married years ago seem less likely to go for counseling or try new approaches, perhaps because it wasn’t something commonly done when they were younger.
If you feel like you need relationship counseling, be sure to ask your partner to go to counseling with you in a non-judgmental way, if you ask him or her to go to counseling in such a way as it seems like you are accusing them of being the problem and needing counseling, you are likely to encounter resistance to the idea, try to make it clear that you want the counseling for yourself if nothing else, if you ask your partner to go to counseling because you have some issues you need to work on, they are more likely to view the idea favorably, explain that you think you need some help to be able to contribute more to the relationship.
Don’t accuse the other person of need counseling, even if you believe that they are most of the problem, don’t say so, once you are in relationship counseling, they will learn tips and techniques for being better within the relationship, just as you will, don’t be afraid to suggest relationship counseling, whether you have been in the relationship for 3 months, 3 years or two decades, it’s never too late to try counseling to resolve problems, and it’s never too late to try to keep small problems from becoming big ones.
If your partner refuses, go on your own, while the counseling would work best if both of you go, you can go and work on things to improve yourself, if your partner sees you going to relationship counseling, they are more likely to give it a try.