Here are 4 good tips to help you saving your marriage. The first tip is to just stop arguing. Every time your partner says something that you want to get grumpy with or correct, just learn to let it go. When one person can learn to let things start rolling off her back, the other one will follow suit.
To help save marriage, you are probably going to have to be the one to learn to let things go. You never know, your partner might be working on the same skills at the same time. But no matter how badly both people want to save the marriage, usually only one person is working on trying to keep the peace.
When your partner thinks that the shirt is blue when it’s really an odd green, just think in your head “it’s green!” and let it go. It comes down to deciding that you want to help save your marriage and that’s more important than always being right about everything, or making sure your partner doesn’t make a mistake.
The next thing is to be dating again. Even if you’re not actually dating and going out together, you have to approach your relationship as if it’s new and you’ve just started dating. This isn’t always easy, especially if you’ve been in a relationship for a long time, but it’s necessary.
We all have a different perspective on our partners when the relationship is new. Everything is fresh and more exciting. After a while that freshness wears off and we start to get bored. Some call it routine and familiarity, but most people call it boring and predictable. If you want to help save marriage, then make sure it isn’t as boring and predictable as it has been. Surprise your partner with a special date night (and make sure you can reschedule, just in case they can’t go).
The third step is to love your partner in the way he or she wants to be loved. We all have things that make us happiest. Some like to be told that they’re loved constantly. Others find small gestures like you offering your gloves to them on a cold day to be the greatest things ever.
Some might think that changing the oil on the car for them is a supreme act of love, while others just want to be told “I love you” so they can feel cherished. The point is, your hours of loving your partner will be twice as effective if you do the things that you know make them happy.
Finally, be physically affectionate. Love and marriage aren’t all about sex, but it’s still important. If you want to help save marriage, you’ll hug and kiss your partner many times throughout the day for no reason at all.