If you often find yourself thinking about your ex, and there is no doubt that you still have feelings for your ex, then you need to figure out what you want to happen next, it is natural for there to be some residual love hanging around, after all, the two of you shared some special times together and were able to get close, the closeness and love is not easily broken completely, does the love that is still there mean that you want to get back the one you love? When you say, I still love my ex, what does that mean to you?
When someone says, I still love my ex, it is a really good sign because, it means that there was some love there to begin with, that love was a gift that is not easily taken away, there will still be a fondness there and there will be a lot to remember from the marriage or relationship, much of it will be good memories, just because there is love still lingering doesn’t mean that you are bound to get back together or that it should even happen, you need to be asking yourself, I still love my ex, but do I want my ex back? If you look at it closely and with a chance to step back and ponder it, you will be more able to see if the two of you are meant to be together.
If you have been able to figure out that your statement, I still love my ex, is due to just a remaining fondness then don’t feel any need to push it in one direction or another, just go with the flow, what will happen is that the two of you will either drift away or you will remain friends for a long time, that could be something special on it’s own and something few have, good friends are hard to find.
If, by saying, I still love my ex, you mean that you want to get back together with them then you have to be willing to do some work, you need to first see if the other person has an interest in getting back together with you, this will happen naturally because, like with the above advice, it will happen naturally, just don’t push it one way or the other and you will tell if the feeling is mutual, when the two of you decide that you want to try again, be ready to work.
If this was a marriage that failed, seek marriage counseling, no matter what kind of relationship it was, though, seek relationship advice from someone trained to do so, someone who can help the two of you build back stronger what had fallen apart, obviously there were mistakes made and the two of you were incapable of handling it on your own, if you had been getting counseling before, find someone different to get it from, the two of you will need a fresh start and someone that will help the two of you make the relationship stronger.