After a breakup, most people desire to get their ex back, sometimes, even if the relationship was unhealthy they still desire to get their ex back, you really shouldn’t try to get back with your ex if they ever used physical violence or words to hurt you, that is not a healthy relationship, if you were in a relationship like that and your ex broke up with you, then consider yourself lucky.
When you first meet someone everything is wonderful and new, after a while comfort sets in, both adjust to each other, when the newness is gone and the comfort is there things in the relationship change, the little quirks you were willing to overlook before actually bother you now, after a couple get comfortable and familiar with each other, trouble usually starts, this is exactly what tests the strength of the relationship, it takes work and effort to maintain a relationship.
Sometimes, when things break, instead of getting repaired, the other person wants out of the relationship completely. Do you believe, despite it being over, your relationship is worth salvaging, even if the other person made it clear, it’s over? You need some answers on how to get your ex back.
Here are some steps you can take.
Say sorry. Saying you are sorry is one of the best methods, even if it doesn’t get your ex back, it’s usually the best first step, be sure that you say sorry for the right reasons, after a breakup it can be easy to blame yourself for everything, remember that it takes two people to have a successful relationship, knowing what exactly to apologize for is critical.
Sit down and talk things out. If your ex is up to it, set a time where both of you can sit down and talk, whatever you do don’t beg, plead, cry, or force your ex into this, if they don’t want to, just go to the next step, if they do agree, you are going to have to keep your emotions in check, this isn’t the time to get into a fight again, make it clear to your ex that you have no desire to bring blame into the discussion, if you talk strictly about the issues without assigning blame, you’ll get better results.
Give some space. You have to remember just because you want to talk to them or see them, doesn’t mean they do, it is crucial to allow the partner some space, a brief time away from each other, before you try to win love back, will give you both time to cool down and a chance for them to miss you, if you are in touch with them all the time, they won’t be able to miss you.
Show them you care about yourself. Prove to them that you care about yourself, if you seem desperate, clingy, and whiny, you will not succeed, if you sit around the house waiting for them to call or keep checking your email every few minutes hoping to get their message, you are not doing yourself any favors, instead hang out with friends, go to movies, go to concerts, go to the mall, whatever best fits you, just get up and get out and live your life.
It’s best if you are not there when your ex calls, because they will be wondering what you’re doing, if you are out and your cell rings and it’s your ex, don’t answer it, let the call go to voice mail, the best thing to do is wait until the next day to call them back, tell them you were busy, and you didn’t have time to call them back, this will probably shock them, you may even be able to get them to pursue you again.
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