So let’s look at this! Your heart is no doubt telling you to drop everything, chase down your ex and make them listen to what you have to say, whether they want to or not. You heart has convinced you that all your ex has to do is to hear and understand just how much you miss, love and want them back and your ex will forget about everything that went wrong take you back on the spot! Wrong!

To win back love your head would never tell you to do any of that, instead your head would say back off, get a grip and take your time. Guess which one you should be listening to! Yep, your head! So, leave your ex alone, don’t call them, don’t try to accidentally bump into them wherever you know they hang out and don’t send them love notes – in short make no attempt whatsoever to contact them.

By contacting them, you’re making yourself appear desperate, a pain in the butt and someone that no right minded person would even want to be around never mind consider dating again. Like a diamond that increases in value the rarer it is, where your ex is concerned, aim to be rare! Let your ex wonder where you are and why they haven’t heard from you and just like that they will want to hear from you and see you.

If you’re stuck with a problem and the first person you would usually call is your ex, then you’re going to have to figure out how to solve that problem yourself. Not only does this enhance your standing with your ex, because they realize that you can cope on your own, but it also enhances your own standing in your own head. If you figure out how to cook that favorite meal that your ex used to cook for you – you realize you can cope! If you figure out how to change the oil in your car – again you realize that you can cope!

The art to win back love is based in rationale and calmness. Only then will your ex give you the time of day. Whatever fire is burning in your heart for your ex, allowing it to run riot and influence you unduly will only be to your detriment. Calm the flames of your passion and instead use the logical! That is what will ultimately help you to win back love.

When your ex was the one who did something worth apologizing for, then rather than try to get a sincere apology from them, forgive them, you might never forget, especially if your break up was because of cheating, but you must learn to forgive, forgiving is much harder for some of us than merely saying, “I forgive you,” though, so you might want to read a book or two on forgiveness and how to really mean it, if you want to win lost love back, this step will help you do it, and it can help prevent problems in the future, too.

If you do succeed and you win back lost love, 3 or 6 or even 9 months into the newly patched relationship, old issues might come up, if you haven’t forgiven the person for whatever was done to break up the relationship, then you might have a hard time getting past everything, old wounds would be reopened and it’s likely that hurtful things would be said, but if you can truly forgive the person, then there won’t be any need to rehash the past, while you are working on forgiving him or her for whatever happened to cause the break up, forgive them for the break up itself and you will save yourself lots of grief down the road.

Also, you may win lost love back by reminding them why they loved you in the first place.
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