So let’s look at this! Your heart is no doubt telling you to drop everything, chase down your ex and make them listen to what you have to say, whether they want to or not. You heart has convinced you that all your ex has to do is to hear and understand just how much you miss, love and want them back and your ex will forget about everything that went wrong take you back on the spot! Wrong!

To win back love your head would never tell you to do any of that, instead your head would say back off, get a grip and take your time. Guess which one you should be listening to! Yep, your head! So, leave your ex alone, don’t call them, don’t try to accidentally bump into them wherever you know they hang out and don’t send them love notes – in short make no attempt whatsoever to contact them.

By contacting them, you’re making yourself appear desperate, a pain in the butt and someone that no right minded person would even want to be around never mind consider dating again. Like a diamond that increases in value the rarer it is, where your ex is concerned, aim to be rare! Let your ex wonder where you are and why they haven’t heard from you and just like that they will want to hear from you and see you.

If you’re stuck with a problem and the first person you would usually call is your ex, then you’re going to have to figure out how to solve that problem yourself. Not only does this enhance your standing with your ex, because they realize that you can cope on your own, but it also enhances your own standing in your own head. If you figure out how to cook that favorite meal that your ex used to cook for you – you realize you can cope! If you figure out how to change the oil in your car – again you realize that you can cope!

The art to win back love is based in rationale and calmness. Only then will your ex give you the time of day. Whatever fire is burning in your heart for your ex, allowing it to run riot and influence you unduly will only be to your detriment. Calm the flames of your passion and instead use the logical! That is what will ultimately help you to win back love.

To get yourself in a calm and rational place take some time out from the heat and drama of the breakup, often people don’t take this time out and instead just panic and believe they have to win back an ex by going straight in hard from day one.

As you take this time, concentrate on the things that are going to make you feel good about yourself and what you need to keep your spirits up, so make sure that you are not spending too much time on your own and that you are instead out with friends and having some fun, this is possibly the last thing you want to do, but you would be amazed how much of a difference this one step can make to your prospects of getting back with the one you love.

For the same reason looking after your body is key, when you take the time to do some regular exercise and eat well, you begin to feel focused, less confused and defeatist about what you are going through, you don’t have to join a gym if that’s not your thing, you simply need to find what works for you and stick to it, it could be as simple as a regular walk or joining a sports team or simply a regular kick around with the kids, anything that gets you up on your feet and has the blood pumping.

Eating well is also part of this, do not fall into the obvious trap of over indulging where food and drink are concerned, it might make you feel consoled initially but eventually it will ruin any chance you might have to win your ex back, so eat well and drink in moderation.

Connect all of these points and you have the beginnings of proven plan to begin the job to win your ex back.